God does not abandon you while you suffer, rather he is more present than ever: Jesus associates you with his redemption and with his Cross.
But why? Does he not want your happiness? Has He not suffered and suffered death to give you joy and life?
The answer is not so simple, if viewed with a human mind. The greatest act of love was the death of Jesus on the cross: no one has a love greater than a God who gives his life. So when we look at a crucifix, we look at the image of the greatest love that can exist.
So far, we can all consent, but it becomes difficult when suffering touches us, who may not be willing to love in the dimension of the cross.
And then, love who? A cancer patient knows only that he has been struck by a great misfortune, and does not see to whom it can benefit.
We can try an answer, but the Cross remains a mystery, a great mystery, especially for the man who, willy-nilly, brings it. He does not want words or easy explanations, but only wants to free himself from pain and anguish.
The Cross cannot be understood without an illumination of divine grace, which elevates our poor human intellect to accept reasons and reasonings that are far from simple common sense.
We begin to put a firm point: if the way to happiness is love, and if the maximum love is to give life, we must also begin to advance in this path bristling with thorns, precisely to reach happiness and joy.
Who benefits our suffering? Sometimes we know it, but other times only God knows: He knows well for the benefit of who we suffer, how he knows everything about us and the whole universe.
So our cross is not useless, because it leads us to happiness, and because it benefits someone or many.
Faith does not cease to repeat to us that the cross is blessed, that it is the only way and the only hope that assimilates us to Christ: The saints ardently desired the cross, and they preferred it to all the joys of the world.
This conviction, however, can only give us the faith inflamed with charity and hope: as these theological virtues grow in us, the understanding and desire of the cross will also grow, however difficult and absurd this may seem to unenlightened human reason by faith.
Then the presence of God in us will console us in suffering, and slowly it will make us understand, in a thousand ways, the close connection of sufferings with love, with true love. God will consolidate our spiritual organism in us, and His presence in us will make all the virtues that will lead us to the love of the cross, of our cross grow: the last stage of this wonderful and secret path is called by the mystics the madness of Cross!
Let us convince ourselves that we are not born for the things of this earth but for those of heaven; to these we must tend and not to those. In this earthly life we are on a pilgrimage to reach the eternal home; we walk in the way to reach the homeland; we live in faith to dwell in the vision; we practice hard to enjoy rest; let us practice active life, full of bitterness and sorrow, for the reward of Eternal Life (cf 2 Cor 5: 6-8).